Why Don't Tell

The book, Don't Tell by Stephen Roche.
A clipping from a 2011 newspaper.

Why Don't Tell

Stephen Roche has fought a lot of legal battles in his time. As the co-founder of one of Australia’s largest and most successful plaintiff litigation firms, he’s been up against everyone from McDonalds to goverments and Churches . But it was Lyndal’s case which occurred in his own home town of Toowoomba, that really had an impact on him. And it would be Lyndal’s case that would change him forever.

Don’t Tell gives a voice to everyone who has ever suffered guilt and shame as a result of being abused or from failing to prevent their child being abused. Stephen’s message to those people is that you have nothing to be ashamed of. It is the institutions that need to answer for their actions. It is the institutions and the people that run them, who need to be sorry, to feel remorse, to find the courage to make a change.

When Stephen first met Lyndal back in 2000, she had lost all hope. Many have lost hope in their elders, in their schools, their churches, their legal systems. Don’t Tell is a reminder that justice can and sometimes does  prevail. To those who have lost the will to fight, or do not know where to turn, Stephen hopes that Don’t Tell will show them that where there is a will, there is a way. And sometimes standing up and using your voice and being heard – is the only way.

Our legal system can be a powerful vehicle for all of us  seeking justice. And it is precious. There is  much criticism of our justice system, our judges and the legal profession (much of it justified) but there are too few  defending it. Lyndal used the legal system to expose an institution guilty of reckless  behaviour. In this way, the law can be a catalyst for positive social change.

Since writing the book and making the movie, many more survivors of abuse have come forward and told their story. New systems and protocols exist in our public and private schools to reduce the risk of harm to our children. There has been a Royal Commission. The Government has taken action to promote child abuse awareness and as a community we have banded together to shine a light on other institutions who need to be held accountable in order to do better. Yet our rights as individuals are slowly being eroded by our legislators, our politicians and bureaucrats – heavily influenced by the lobbying power of the insurance industry.

Change can and will happen. Through the making of the movie Don’t Tell, Stephen and Lyndal hope to inspire that change.